By KEVIN CHIRI
Slidell news bureau
SLIDELL – Bettie Nolan admits that she wasn’t very interested in going to college.
“I wanted to get married and have a family,” she said.
Little did she know that family would turn into 23 children many years later.
No, Nolan and her firefighter husband don’t have 23 children that are truly their own.
But the work she has done as a Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA) for children has made her feel the same as if they all were hers.
Nolan became a CASA staff member eight years ago and has been so committed to the children assigned to her for court cases that she was recently named the Louisiana CASA Child Advocate of the Year.
Court Appointed Special Advocates are trained community volunteers who are the voice for abused and neglected children, helping judges determine what would be the best home situation for them in the midst of domestic cases.
Nolan said she was giving blood one day in 2002 when she saw Dr. Phil come on television and start talking about the need for CASA volunteers.
Nolan didn’t respond to the CASA call right away, but in 2008 when her 19-year-old granddaughter was killed in a single car accident on a rainy night she said it motivated her to find a way to do something for children—partly as a way she could do something in the memory of her granddaughter.
“I remembered the Dr. Phil show and got signed up to be a volunteer with CASA,” she recalls. “I knew our children have had a good life and I wanted to help other children have a good life too.”
“At the beginning I really didn’t know what I was getting into. I wondered if I could really help a child or not, especially once I began to understand that many are in very bad situations,” she said.
Her first case was a major test as she was assigned five children in a family, all under the age of 6. She handled that case well and since then has continued helping children, now viewed among the best CASA volunteers working in St. Tammany Parish and the state.
Slidell City Court Judge Jim Lamz wrote a recommendation letter on Nolan that he sent to the state CASA organization and noted how much she goes the extra mile with the children or teens she deals with.
“Ms. Nolan does not simply meet the children and their families and report the facts. She becomes a part of their lives and is someone upon whom the children can rely,” Lamz wrote.
Lamz said he views the CASA volunteers as working with a “purity of purpose,” only considering what is best for the child in every situation. He said Nolan is “an extraordinary CASA volunteer who is the personification of the ‘purity of purpose.’ These are very difficult and painful cases and it would make my job much more difficult if we didn’t have the CASA eyes and ears helping.”
Nolan is 66 years of age now, but shows no interest in ending her CASA work since she said the need to help children is so great.
“Most of the children I have been introduced to live a horrible existence and I’m trying to get them a better life and a better future,” she said. “The work I am doing gives me a sense of accomplishment since I can see it’s helping kids.”
She said it has not been unusual to visit homes where children are eating on the floor and have no table, chairs, shoes or toys. And unfortunately, CASA volunteers are not allowed to purchase any items for the children they are assigned to.
“That is one of the hardest things,” Nolan said. “When I walk in a room and a child runs to me with open arms I feel like their grandmother. That makes it very hard to know I can’t buy them toys or anything else.”
Although CASA volunteers are trained with the hope to not connect too personally with the children they are interviewing, Nolan said that is a near impossible task.
“Every one of these children becomes personal to me,” she said. “When I take a case I’m supposed to see the children a minimum of once a month for 11 months, but I usually feel a need to do more and visit many every week.
“The only thing that really helps these children is love and I can give them a lot of that,” she said. “I truly feel like I’m helping kids. To me, it’s an honor to get to help them and that’s why I call all of them ‘my’ kids.”
Nolan has dealt with 23 children in eight years and said she initially liked working with older kids, but now likes the younger ones since she said there is more of a chance to reach them.
“So many of the teens have had it so hard—sex abuse, physical abuse, neglect—that they are so hard to reach. I had one child who got very upset and started shaking every time either of his parents came in,” she said.
One case that has been special to Nolan was a 17-year-old girl who was very difficult to connect with.
“She didn’t want to talk at all,” Nolan said. “I was having such a hard time getting her to open up.”
So Nolan came up with an idea that ended up working.
“I used my cell phone and purposely turned the ringer off, then told the girl I didn’t know why it wasn’t ringing and asked if she would help me,” Nolan said. “Right away she agreed and started playing with the phone, which helped her start talking with me.
“I prayed for God to show me a way to reach her and He did,” she added. “That opened the door for the girl to talk to me and I was able to build a good relationship with her.”
Originally from Little Rock, Ark., Nolan moved to St. Charles Parish with her parents, then came to the North Shore the day that she graduated from high school. Although initially upset that her parents moved here, she quickly met a man who lived on the corner and it turned out to be the man she would marry.
Nolan and her husband have two children of their own, a son and daughter who both serve in the U.S. military, and have blessed her with four grandchildren.
CASA is always looking for more volunteers and anyone interested in more information about the work can call 985-893-6113 or go online to ysbworks.com.